Questions:
1.
What are the tools addicts use to control the people in their
lives?
2.
What is the danger of the "threaten, punish, and relent" cycle?
3.
What are the main reasons families of addicts are resistant
to trying new methods of dealing with their situation?
4.
What are the basic roles children of addicts adopt to connect
with their families?
5.
What steps are required for the "Build Up Your Courage
Muscles" exercise?
6.
What are the main purposes of anger in the families of addicts?
7.
What powerful life forces control a caretaker?
8.
What is meant by the ABCs of a blame statement?
9.
According to Larsen, what are the character defect personality
types of family members of addicts?
10.
What are the negotiation styles found in the families of addicts?
11.
What are key considerations in preparing for a structured family
intervention?
12.
What are the steps in preparing for a structured family
intervention?
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Answers:
A. Manipulation, mistrust, and misdirection.
B. They get locked into a habit of recycling past actions, they relegate themselves to the sidelines, and they feel "comfortable" with the way they have always dealt with things.
C. The hero, the scapegoat, the lost child, and the mascot.
D. To instruct the addict, to keep the addict from hurting himself or others, and to make emotional connections.
E. The family member focuses on trying to change the behavior of the addict, rather than on healing him or herself.
F. Support, a history of success, and a courage talisman.
G. The action, the belief, and the emotional
consequences.
H. Avoiding the
pain caused by an addict’s crisis, and seeking the pleasure
of relief when the crisis is averted.
I. Adversaries,
aggressors, appeasers, avoiders, and analysts.
J. The caretaker, the perfectionist, the
procrastinator, and the rageoholic.
K. Building a team, setting up a planning
meeting, choosing a team chairperson, discussing the
negative consequences of the addiction, and listing ways family
members have unwittingly enabled the addiction.
L. The addict should
not be forewarned of the intervention, many clients need
to be reminded that the addiction, not the addict, is the
adversary, family members need to learn skills for an intervention,
and possible complications might require additional professional
help. |
