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As you know, there are many reasons women accept verbal abuse from their "Great Catch." And just to recap a point made at the beginning of track #1, for purposes of brevity, I am using the pronoun her and female names for cases of the recipient of the abuse. However, I like you, have treated many males involved in abusive relationships and same-sex relationships.
was married... for eight years to Jerry. She described how small things could ignite
Jerry's temper. When she stated her negative feelings about his outbursts, Jerry
refused to speak to her for hours or even days. Tina felt rejected and frustrated,
because she didn't know how to calm him down without causing further retaliation.
Tina said, "There was never any give and take in the relationship. I felt
I was doing all the giving.
you have a client whom you feel you may have overlooked this basic step of client-awareness?
Perhaps you are trying to focus your session on actions to change, and the real
focus should be on first increasing your client's awareness of the abusive-controlling
the course of several sessions, I discussed with Sandra and Tina two questions
they might consider in evaluating whether they felt they were experiencing abusive
controlling behavior in the relationship, where the felt they had gotten the Great
#1. Increases awareness of the instant-replay syndrome.
#2. Increases awareness of the guilt trip strategy.
Heres how I initiated this labeling technique in a session with Sandra. I asked her to be an objective observer of her thoughts. Have you found, like I, this thought-observing-method especially helpful when clients have negative self comparisons? I find three benefits of thought-monitoring or observation: the separation from the thought process, reduction of the attachment to the thoughts, and objectifying the abuse.
stated to Sandra, "Examine your thoughts objectively, the way you would study
someone elses thoughts, as if you had no emotional attachment to them."
For example, Sandras significant other, James, would say, "Our house
is never as clean as my mother's"
or, "Your Polish sausages never
taste as good as Moms." After practicing this thought-observing-method,
Sandy was able to recognize the source of these abuses as being her partner's
Communication Skills for Healthy Relationships
- Communication Skills for Healthy Relationships. (2011). A WorkLife4You Guide, 1-8. Retrieved May 08, 2019, from https://www.wfm.noaa.gov/workplace/EffectivePresentation_Handout_1.pdf.
The next track will describe three tactics I used to initiate this labeling technique with Sandra.
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