Questions:
1.
What are the three tools addicts use to control the people in their
lives?
2.
What is the danger of the "threaten, punish, and relent" cycle?
3.
What are the three main reasons families of addicts are resistant
to trying new methods of dealing with their situation?
4.
What are the four basic roles children of addicts adopt to connect
with their families?
5.
What three steps are required for the "Build Up Your Courage
Muscles" exercise?
6.
What are the three main purposes of anger in the families of addicts?
7.
What two powerful life forces control a caretaker?
8.
What is meant by the ABCs of a blame statement?
9.
According to Larsen, what are the four character defect personality
types of family members of addicts?
10.
What are the five negotiation styles found in the families of addicts?
11.
What are four key considerations in preparing for a structured family
intervention?
12.
What are the first five steps in preparing for a structured family
intervention?
13.
By what age do most children develop accurate perceptions of the role of alcohol and other drugs in their parent’s lives?
14.
According to Hogan, how are children in the families of addicts placed into an "impossible situation"?
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Answers:
A. Avoiding the
pain caused by an addict’s crisis, and seeking the pleasure
of relief when the crisis is averted.
B. Manipulation,
mistrust, and misdirection.
C. They get locked into a habit of recycling
past actions, they relegate themselves to the
sidelines, and they feel "comfortable" with the way
they have always dealt with things.
D. Building a team, setting up a planning
meeting, choosing a team chairperson, discussing the
negative consequences of the addiction, and listing ways family
members have unwittingly enabled the addiction.
E. The hero, the scapegoat, the lost child,
and the mascot.
F. The action, the belief, and the emotional
consequences.
G. To instruct the
addict, to keep the addict from hurting himself or others,
and to make emotional connections.
H. The addict should
not be forewarned of the intervention, many clients need
to be reminded that the addiction, not the addict, is the
adversary, family members need to learn skills for an intervention,
and possible complications might require additional professional
help.
I. Adversaries,
aggressors, appeasers, avoiders, and analysts.
J. The family member focuses on
trying to change the behavior of the addict, rather than
on healing him or herself.
K. The caretaker, the perfectionist, the
procrastinator, and the rageoholic.
L. Support, a history of success, and
a courage talisman.
M. By age 7 or 8.
N. They are bound to silence by loyalty to their parents and their desire to protect themselves, their parents, and their families from social censure and exclusion.
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