A. Avoiding the
pain caused by an addict’s crisis, and seeking the pleasure
of relief when the crisis is averted.
B. To instruct the
addict, to keep the addict from hurting himself or others,
and to make emotional connections.
C. The caretaker, the perfectionist, the
procrastinator, and the rageoholic.
D. Support, a history of success, and
a courage talisman.
E. 1, How well do you honor your needs?; 2, when you make promises to yourself, do you keep them?; 3, can you trust yourself to make tough choices?; and 4, do you stand up for yourself when someone steps over your boundaries or
acts in inappropriate ways?
F. Identify the person; identify the boundary; identify support; plan to vent; identify the raw-truth; and practice and plan the conversation.
G. The family must acknowledge their denial of the addiction, understand the impact of the substance abuse, and realize that they did not cause the alcoholism, but their behavior can contribute to the disease.