|Sponsored by the HealthcareTrainingInstitute.org providing Quality Education since 1979|
In the last track, we reviewed how the Invisible Dragon of shame can result in physical abuse. Do you agree that shame and control often go hand-in-hand with many of your clients? As you will see in the case of Duane, physical abuse started with control.
Duane, a 45-year-old research scientist, came into my anger management program voluntarily, unlike many of my clients. While he did have a police record citing four incidents of domestic disturbances, he was not court-ordered into the group. Duane stated, "Calling for information about anger management was the hardest thing I have ever done. I even drove past your building a few times before I finally pulled in." Think of a client you are currently treating and his reluctance to change. Do you agree that a core issue is addiction to control?
Four Checkpoints for Change
Compared with court-ordered clients, Duane more easily completed the first and second checkpoints: recognizing that change is possible and finding motivation to change. As you know, recognizing the possibility of change as well as forming a motivation to change are necessary in order for any further steps to be taken. With a court-ordered client, the recognition that change is possible and motivation to change has, of course, the legal system as a leverage point.
The third item in the assessment regarding change is having clients verbalize a reason to change. Duane's reason to change, as with many batterers, was fear of jail time and loss of his relationship with his wife Julie. However, in Duane's case, he also wanted to avoid the embarrassment he felt when greeting his neighbors who knew the police had been to his house the night before. Also, Duane stated, "Damn it to Hell! What if news got back to the Research Institute about this? They'd think I was some kind of a wacko, and I'd lose all credibility with my team."
The fourth checkpoint for change, then, was for Duane to come up with a plan of
exactly what to change. This plan for change can be divided into two categories:
internal cognitive process and external behavior.
2. Behavioral. The Behavioral coping strategies focus on visible ways of dealing with violence. The batterer may become active in the community or in an Anger Management group. Duane, for instance, vowed verbally to "do whatever is necessary" to stay involved with the group and end his abuse. Duane eventually found that when he was expected to report on his progress in our group meetings, he became more externally motivated, since he felt a pressure to keep up with other group members.
"Coping with Coping" Four-Column Technique
For example, Duane wrote in his Actions column that he began taking on more responsibilities at work. During our session, I found that Duane had volunteered to lead a research team for the first time, rather than being a team member like usual. In his chart, Duane noted that "getting more energy out by working harder" was a positive result of his action. His frustration with feeling unimportant at work had often led to his physical violence toward Julie.
I pointed out to Duane that his being a team leader was also positive because it was an appropriate outlet for his desire to control. Duane began to understand that he could feel a sense of control over his life without attempting to gain control over Julie with his abusive behaviors. Would the use of this Coping with Coping" Four-Column Technique be of assistance with your Anger Management Group?
In this track, I discussed checkpoints for change and a Coping with Coping" Four-Column Technique.
On the next track, we'll take a look at goal-setting.
Online Continuing Education QUESTION
Others who bought this Domestic/Partner Violence Course