the last track, we talked about three methods of altering attitudes in male batterers.
In this track, we will discuss working as a male-female therapist team as well
as the pacing of the anger management session. There are many advantages to working
as a therapeutic team, as well as some disadvantages, of course. My preference
for the team arrangement came from my belief that the batterer population would
present many in-session challenges that would be easier to deal with if two therapists
were working together.
do not assume that all the men we work with are angry with women in particular.
But we do recognize, however, that some men will direct anger at a female therapist,
rather than a male therapist. We find that these clients are much less likely
to do so when a male-female team is used. So, Laura and I find that working as
a team saves energy that otherwise would be used to deal with misdirected anger
and confrontation. I have also found that a male-female team has the further advantage
of providing a role model of a male and female "working together" and
productively resolving differences.
Modeling Compromise & a Willingness to "Give In"
a team, Laura and I openly disagree during sessions and discuss the disagreement.
Thus, we aim to model compromise and a willingness to "give in" and
experiment. However, clearly, it is important that my and Laura's disagreements
not be a significant focus of the group. This, of course, would detract from the
clients. When disagreements do arise, though, we address them openly.
4 Advantages for Using a Male-Female Team
Advantage # 1 - Takes the Pressure Off
major advantage of working with Laura is that it takes pressure off. For example,
I am able to take a moment to think of useful questions and compliments while
Laura is asking a question. Another advantage is related to the pace of interaction
between therapist and client. Laura and I find it helpful to keep clients fully
engaged at all times, thinking and responding to questions and compliments.
way, there is little time for interaction that is not purposeful. Group members
begin to recognize that the pace will require them to be fully engaged in responding
to questions and compliments. Some groups have referred to this as "being
on the hot seat." How do you feel about the pacing of your sessions?
Advantage # 2 - Production of Useful Responses
have noticed that it is often easier for the observing therapist to produce
useful responses. I suspect that this is because the observer has a unique
point of view and can see the process from a broader, less engaged perspective,
and is not under pressure to provide an immediate response. Within the group process,
we view ourselves as "thoughtful observers" when our interviewing partner
is engaged with the client. We evaluate what is working and consider what might
be more helpful, as if we were behind a one-way mirror. Do you have clients you
are currently treating as an individual therapist with whom you might consider
using a second therapist?
Advantage # 3 - Shifting Focus toward Resolution
you know, problems with defensive or threatening clients can certainly occur in
any therapy session. When threats do arise in a session, we find it is often very
helpful to have the less involved therapist take the lead in shifting the focus
toward a resolution. In such situations, it is common for the anger or energy
to be directed at one of us. Generally, the other teammate is able to ask questions
that bring the focus back to the work at hand. We find that the less affected
therapist can also draw support from the group when the time is right to further
defuse the situation. These types of situations are rare in Laura's and my experience,
but when they do occur, it is very helpful to be working as a team.
Advantage # 4 - Play with Ideas
and I support each other and compliment each other for our good work. We hold
each other accountable for not only "talking the talk" but also "walking
the walk." I find that when Laura and I are most playful as a team, we are
the most effective. We are of course serious, diligent, and determined about our
work. We recognize, though, that in part our effectiveness lies in our ability
to get our clients and ourselves to play with ideas and behavior when the situation
presents itself. What kind of team involvement do you currently have? Would it
be worth your time to replay this track, which reviews therapy-team-basics to
see if there are some obvious points that you may have been overlooking regarding
your team involvement?
In the next track, we will discuss three stages of abuse.
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