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The last track talked about interventions for clients who are on an emotional roller coaster of fear, guilt, feelings of going crazy, and anger. Healing and Recovery can be difficult processes for your clients. In the process of recovery, individuals are presented with many opportunities to recover themselves.
Marian, a 33 year old secretary, was in the Lifetrap of physical abuse. Marian recently separated from her physically-abusive husband. Marian stated, "Rob used to be so caring then all of the sudden, our honeymoon was over. About a year into our marriage, Rob turned on me and started hitting me whenever things didn't go his way. I thought it was my fault, so I constantly stayed on edge, trying to make sure that everything was perfect for him. When things weren't perfect, Rob was capable of torture. One time, he broke my arm and kept pulling on it saying it wasn't broken. Then he refused to let me go to the doctor to have it looked at."
Marian described to me the first time she tried to leave Rob. "He begged me to stay and said that things would change. I stayed but things only seemed to get worse. I was paralyzed with fear. When I finally had had enough, I left without warning while he was at work and moved in with a coworker. I've filed for divorce, and I'm only corresponding with him through lawyers now. Things are starting to get better, but I can't help but feel like this is my fault, because I'm not good enough."
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Through my work with Marian, I found that the more important part of the recovery process was "taking back." Marian needed to determine her needs and "take them back." One way that I recommended she do this was by making a list. Once Marian had written down her needs, she could think of things which she could do to begin to meet them. Writing her needs down brought acknowledgement to them, and validated Marian's feelings. For example, some needs Marian wrote down were finding a place on her own and making sure she has enough money to support herself.
I found, with Marian, that once she'd left Rob and decided to date again, she needed to recognize herself. By recognize herself I mean: I discussed with Marian about being her own choice-maker, discriminator, and action-taker in order to avoid being abused; by having her limits respected; and by affirming that, "Today, I must act on my own behavior."
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