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Teen Internet Bullying: Effective Coping & Prevention Techniques
10 CEUs Teen Internet Bullying: Effective Coping & Prevention Techniques

Section 14
Parents' Involvement on Cyberbullying

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In the last section, we discussed four therapeutic interventions for the friends of internet bullies and their victims. These four interventions are, give permission to act on feelings, decide on specific actions, provide immediate and follow up support for victims, and help bullies change in positive ways.

In this section, we will discuss three ideas for including the parents and families of both internet bully and victim in establishing a healing process for both students. These three ideas are modeling appropriate behaviors, modifying enmeshed or disengaged families, and encouraging consistency.

Tara, 16, had recently come into conflict with a classmate, Bridget, regarding an argument the girls had over a posting on Bridget’s Instagram. Bridget had posted a list of reasons why Tara’s boyfriend should break up with her. Tara had responded by commenting with abusive messages and death threats on Bridget’s post.

Bridget would post up to 20 harassing comments a day, spending most of her evenings on the computer composing new messages. Tara’s father, Carl, had discovered the messages when he overheard Tara crying at the computer one evening. Carl had immediately notified the school. The school had threatened to expel Bridget unless she entered therapy.

I involved both girl’s parents in composing a therapeutic strategy for the girls. Clearly, both Bridget and Tara were in need of social skills training. I felt that involving the parents from an early stage would give a commonality to a communal effort to improve the lives of both girls. Tara’s parents were eager to do anything they could to help Tara cope with the effects of Bridget’s internet bullying. Bridget’s parents, once confronted with the threat of Bridget being expelled from school, were also determined to do whatever they could to help Bridget change the behavior.

3 Ideas for Including Parents & Families

♦ Idea # 1 - Modeling Appropriate Behavior
A first therapeutic idea I introduced to Tara and Bridget’s parents was modeling appropriate behavior. I stated to Carl, "I feel that Tara could benefit from learning some more negotiation behaviors to help her better deal with conflict. Might there be areas in which you could practice negotiation behaviors more often so that Tara could observe your improvement?"

As you know, many parents will find through an examination of their own behavior that their interactions with their children tend to be demanding rather than negotiation. Rather than parents addressing their child’s bullying behavior on the internet by taking away cell phones or time spent on a computer entirely or simply stating, ‘do it differently or else,’ if the internet bully sees their parents engaged not only in negotiative behavior with school staff and others, but with the child him or herself, they will be more likely to change.

Obviously it is not easy for a parent like Carl to immediately begin practicing more negotiating behavior. However, I explained to Carl that often, children who see their parents making an effort to change old behaviors are impressed as much with the parent’s commitment to the struggle as with the new behavior itself. This effort to change may be enough to inspire the internet bully to work towards her or his own change. In addition, working together towards a common goal can often reinforce a parent-child bond, which in turn provides more of the social support that the internet bully needs.

♦ Idea # 2 - Seeds of Family Growth Technique
A second idea I introduced to Carl was to modify enmeshed or disengaged families. Carl admitted during our first session that he felt that he had drifted apart from Tara due to his efforts to let her "be her own person." I explained to Carl that while respecting Tara’s independence was very positive, Tara may perceive she is not receiving support at home, and may be turning to immature peers for social guidance. For many families such as Tara’s, when both parents work outside the home, spending time together as a family may be challenging.

I introduced the "Planting Seeds of Family Growth" technique to Carl as a way to introduce simple, low-stress change suggestions for increasing family involvement. Clearly, some of these suggestions are very obvious, but I have found in disengaged families these simple steps may be overlooked, and thus worth presenting in the Seeds of Family Growth technique.

4 Suggestions for Family Growth
I gave the following suggestions to Carl as a start:
-- 1. Check Tara’s homework on a regular basis, even if you only spend 5 minutes a night
-- 2. Have a short time each day to let family members tell what they did during the day
-- 3. Eat dinner together consistently. If every night is not feasible, try to set aside at least two nights a week for a family meal away from all distractions.
-- 4. Consider starting a family project, like a family website. Each family member can work together or separately on the page. Even if members work mostly independently, the shared goal can increase connectednes.

Bridget, on the other hand, was a member of a highly enmeshed family. Other than her internet communities, Bridget had no social involvement outside of school. Because her needs were constantly met by her family members, Bridget had poor conflict resolution skills.

In working with Bridget’s mother, Brianne, I stated, "The support which you give each other as a family is remarkable. However, Bridget may be having a hard time perceiving sources of support outside her family, which can make situations like the internet bullying incident especially hard on her." I encouraged Brianne to help Bridget choose at least one extracurricular activity away from the home and the computer in which Bridget could begin building an external support network.

♦ Technique # 3 - Encourage Consistency in Discipline
In addition to modeling appropriate behavior and modifying enmeshed or disengaged families, a third idea I presented to the families of Tara and Bridget is to encourage consistency in discipline techniques.

Carl stated, "When we first found out about Tara bullying Bridget online, we grounded her and took away all devices for a week. But the second day she had a research project, so we let heruse her computer because neither my wife nor I had time to drive her to the library. The third day I had a terrible day at work and came home late, and honestly I kind of forgot about the punishment. After that lapse, I didn’t feel right pulling the plug again." Clearly, these episodes of no consequences have thus been taught to Tara, who now has little reason to change the behavior.

Since each family has its own concept of appropriate disciplinary techniques, for the most part I do not address the disciplinary tactics themselves unless there is an indication of harmful methods. With Carl, I chose to focus not on his choice of punishments, but on encouraging Carl and his wife to apply their chosen disciplinary actions consistently.

While stopping Tara’s access to the internet for an entire week may or may not be the ideal tactic, the important point is to have the underlying message from her parents come through clearly and consistently. Think of your Carl. Would encouraging him or her to apply disciplinary tactics consistently help her or him send a clearer message to her or his child about appropriate online behavior? The key here is making a disciplinary action one that can be enforced, like no internet access for the next 24 hours.

In this section, we have discussed three ideas for including the parents and families of both internet bully and victim in establishing a healing process for both students. These three ideas are modeling appropriate behaviors, modifying enmeshed or disengaged families, and encouraging consistency.

- Smith, J. (2014). Got Teens? The Doctor Moms' Guide to Sexuality, Social Media and Other Adolescent Realities. Library Journal, 139(9), 61.

Peer-Reviewed Journal Article References:

Barlett, C. P., & Fennel, M. (2018). Examining the relation between parental ignorance and youths’ cyberbullying perpetration. Psychology of Popular Media Culture, 7(4), 547–560.

Gradinger, P., Strohmeier, D., & Spiel, C. (2017). Parents’ and teachers’ opinions on bullying and cyberbullying prevention: The relevance of their own children’s or students’ involvement. Zeitschrift für Psychologie, 225(1), 76–84.

Low, S., & Espelage, D. (2013). Differentiating cyber bullying perpetration from non-physical bullying: Commonalities across race, individual, and family predictors. Psychology of Violence, 3(1), 39–52.

Yang, C., Sharkey, J. D., Reed, L. A., Chen, C., & Dowdy, E. (2018). Bullying victimization and student engagement in elementary, middle, and high schools: Moderating role of school climate. School Psychology Quarterly, 33(1), 54–64. 

Yang, C., Sharkey, J. D., Reed, L. A., & Dowdy, E. (2020). Cyberbullying victimization and student engagement among adolescents: Does school climate matter? School Psychology, 35(2), 158–169.

What are three ideas for including the parents and families of both internet bully and victim in establishing a healing process for both students? To select and enter your answer go to Test.

This CD set has covered such topics as:   tests for online interactions, recognizing common issues, the evaluation stage, the direct intervention stage, successful termination, specific strategies for victims, specific techniques for internet bullies, addressing bystanders, and ideas for parents and families.

I hope you have found the information to be both practical and beneficial. We appreciate that you've chosen the Healthcare Training Institute at homestudycredit.com as a means for receiving your continuing education credit.

Other Home Study Courses we offer include: Treating Teen Self Mutilation; Treating Post Holiday Let-Down and Depression; Living with Secrets: Treating Childhood Sexual Trauma; Interventions for Anxiety Disorders with Children and Adults; and Balancing the Power Dynamic in the Therapeutic Relationship. 

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