The First Five Steps to Internet Safety
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1. Before you let your children go online, learn how to use the Internet yourself.
2. Be aware of what your children do online. Does your son or daughter have a MySpace page? Does she or he visit chat rooms? Use instant messaging?
3. Keep a good ongoing dialogue with your children. This will help them feel comfortable telling you if something bad happens online.
4. Instruct your children in good ‘etiquette’. Emphasize that what they would not do offline, they should not do online either.
5. Display trust in your children. Snooping and secretly reading your child’s emails may make you feel better temporarily, but these are obstacles to openness. Strive for a balance of safety and openness. This allows students the benefits of the internet, while protecting them from most of its dangers. Set firm rules about sites and behavior you find unacceptable ahead of time.
Ethical Decision Making Strategies
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1. The Golden Rule Test. How would you feel if someone did this to you? If you would not like it, then it is probably wrong.
2. The Trusted Adult Test. What would an adult whose opinion you respect, for example your coach or grandmother, think of your actions? Would they approve or disapprove?
3. The Front Page Test. How would you feel if your actions were reported on the front page of the newspaper? What if the article included your name and picture? Would you feel comfortable? Ashamed?
4. The Real World Test. Would it be okay if you acted in the same way in the real world. Is this something you would say to someone face to face?
The ‘Attack on Compulsion’ Technique
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1. Make an all out-effort to stop the activity, whether you are posting something on your blog or instant messaging a friend, for a short time if you can’t yet stop permanently. When the urge to say something to Karen comes up, ask the same questions you would when breaking any other habit. Ask yourself why specifically you want to resume the behavior. What seems missing in your life without the behavior?
2. State the underlying problem to yourself as well as you can. Examining your thoughts as you stop the activity will help.
3. List the disadvantages of the compulsion. What does you behavior towards Karen cost you? Does it have a cost in terms of your reputation? Your time?