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In the last section, we discussed concepts regarding children who become addicted to the internet. These concepts included: susceptible clients; warning signs; and acceptance.
In this section, we will examine factors related to partners of clients with an internet addiction.
He stated, "I never thought it would get as far as it did. It was just some flirting, it wasn't hurting anyone. After a while, it escalated quickly, and she sent me photos of herself. Stupidly, I saved these on the computer and my mom found them. I honestly think that if she hadn’t had stopped me, I might have arranged a meeting with this girl." Gina, his mom, stated, "I never thought John was capable of this. He's still such a boy in many ways. I guess I never really understood the internet, come to that."
I explained to Gina, "In these cases, it’s actually easier for a person to commit a cyberaffair than have an actual sexual encounter, especially at John's age when girls are much less receptive. The informal atmosphere and lack of physical restraints lure a person into seemingly harmless flirtations, but as John noted, these get out of hand quickly." Think of your John. Was he lured by the informality of the chat rooms?
♦ Factor #2 - Enabling
John’s mom Gina had become an enabler without knowing it. She stated, "I started bringing him dinner on a tray. Maybe he needed all this time to get to know how the computer worked, and, anyway, I assumed he was still doing things to improve his grades. Or this was a new hobby and he’d soon lose interest."
I stated to Gina, "Because your son had begun to ignore you, you must have felt a drop in self-esteem. Is that right? You made excuses for him that were not justified, but you felt powerless to change his behavior." I asked Gina to become more assertive in letting John know his boundaries. Think of your Gina. How has he or she become an enabler? How would you address this?
♦ Factor #3 - Asserting Independence
John stated, "I love my mom, but she was absolutely stifling me! She kept treating me like a child that still needed rain boots to go out in the sun! Janice never treated me like a kid." Gina stated, "I didn't understand John's behavior at first. He didn't want to talk to me at all. We'd always been close, because John has never had a father. I just thought I would be a part of his life for much longer than I have been. I think I might be afraid of being alone."
I stated, "John is really a normal teen testing the waters of the real world. He wants to feel independent of you, but at the same time still wishes that you would set boundaries. It's a strange balance between trust and leniency. If you try and restrain his internet behavior too much, he may just turn to other more destructive habits. However, without some restraint, he might continue his behavior and nothing will ever change."
Think of your John and Gina. Is John using the internet as a means to assert his or her independence?
In this section, we discussed concepts related to partners of clients with an internet addiction. These concepts included: cyberaffairs; enabling; and asserting independence.
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