Is
your client waiting for a particular goal or person to bring a greater sense of
fulfillment?
Even
if they consider themself to be a basically happy person, they may be convinced
they can’t really be satisfied until a particular wish comes true. Many people
seem to be caught on an endless treadmill of “I’ll be happy when...”
Check some of these hopes and wishes on this list:
“I’ll
be happy when...”
_____I
find the right person
_____I stop searching for the right person
_____I
get this job
_____I quit this job
_____I get a raise
_____I get another
raise
_____The guests arrive
_____The guests go home
_____We have a simultaneous
orgasm
_____We stop being preoccupied with orgasm
_____I make my first million
_____I
make my second million
_____I can exercise every day
_____I don’t have
to exercise every day
_____I start my profession
After
years of delayed fulfillment, “I’ll be happy when...” becomes nostalgic
“I was happy when...” Or fulfillment seems to be just over the next
hill. This might not be so bad if, once over the hill, your client could enjoy
him or herself. Instead, yet another hill looms on the horizon, and lasting satisfaction
remains elusive. Remind your client that when their energy is tied up in hoping,
worrying, or regretting, they give up their vitality and the power to make their
dreams come true. Choosing to be satisfied doesn’t mean “settling for
less.” Rather, by choosing satisfaction your client will have more energy
and enthusiasm for their goals and challenges.
Instead
of resisting the circumstances of life, your client should learn to appreciate
themself and what they already have. This can be the strongest starting point
for growth and improvement. Your client may still be secretly wishing that a Sugar
Daddy, Earth Mother, or Prince Charming will somehow come to their rescue. They
may be waiting for someone else to make them happy and resenting that no one does.
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