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In the last track, we discussed the secondary consequences of sexual abuse of the narrow range of emotions, emotional flooding, emotional numbing, and shortened attention span. These behaviors result when the pressure to release pain becomes stronger than the defenses being used.
this track, we will look at the secondary consequences of feeling hopeless/helpless,
nightmares and flashbacks. At the end, we will discuss two self-discovery exercises
you might consider using with you clients.
Kevin remembers his uncle forcing him to have sex whenever he babysat. He struggled with the persistent feeling of hopelessness and helplessness. Kevin stated "There is this nagging feeling that anything I do won't turn out right --- you know, like what's the point?" Let's look at Kevin's nightmares and body memories.
Kevin suffered from violent nightmares that cause him to wake up screaming, sweating and in a state of terror or fear. In group, Kevin shared, "I keep having the same dream over and over. I'm in a house and there is a man trying to get in. I'm so afraid. I run from room to room, checking that all the windows and doors are closed and locked. My fear grows as I am sure he is going to get in, no matter what I do. I can't get to the last door. I see it begin to open and then I wake up screaming."
Regarding flashbacks Kevin stated, "I have thoughts of my uncle overpowering me. These pictures seem to happen more and more often. I can't believe this really happened to me. Am I crazy?" These extremely vivid and terrifying bits and pieces of memory surface without warning, leaving Kevin suddenly feeling out of control or "crazy". Kevin's therapist stated, "Flashbacks are mini scenarios, like a snap shot that is triggered by an object or person." Do you need to provide your Kevin with a definition of flashbacks in your next session?
As you know, while body memories are similar to flashbacks, they often surface during sex; are experienced by survivors of physical sexual abuse; and typically mirror the childhood sexual experience. Amber, age 19, experienced sexual abuse from her father between the ages of four to six. When Amber's mother discovered what was happening she divorced him.
Amber explained in group "Everything was normal. My boyfriend, Tony, and I were making love just as we always do. Then suddenly I felt smothered! I couldn't breathe! I panicked and I began to hit him. The pain was so powerful. It was horrible. I couldn't believe what was happening. Neither could Tony. We have made love lots of times before and nothing like this has ever happened." Amber did not realize she was sexually abused as a child, yet her body remembered in the middle of sex years later.
The following two self-discovery exercises helped Amber with her secondary consequences of nightmares, flashback, and body memories.
"I Exercise" Technique
Like many clients, Amber gave negative responses to these questions. Amber stated, "I think I am a piece of garbage. I think no one likes me. I feel hopeless. I feel sick all the time. I am never going to get better. I am a bad girl. I do need to work on myself. I do not like myself. I wish I was done with this. I wish I was dead.
Feeling Responses Technique
Amber's Feeling Responses:
As you can see, the use of incomplete phrases helped Amber to explore her feelings to enable her to release them by moving the feelings from her unconscious to her conscious awareness.
How about your Amber or perhaps a Kevin you are treating would they benefit from identifying and expressing feelings by completing "I" phrases or "feeling" phrases?
The use of "I" phrases and "feeling" phrase exercises I find most probably are not completed in one sitting, but provide a variety of thought provoking questions to stimulate the self-discovery process, bring the unconscious to the conscious, and facilitate the healing process.
Now that we have talked about the secondary consequences of feeling hopeless and helpless, nightmares and flashbacks and in the previous track the narrow range of emotions, emotional flooding, emotional numbing and shortened attention span. The next track will discuss the secondary consequences of panic attacks, body objectification, chronic fatigue and minor illnesses. You will receive the technique of view from the eyes of others exercise.
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