setting ethical boundaries with clients, we have just discussed the personal needs
area of defense mechanisms. The second personal needs area we shall explore is
your need of security versus growth.
How do you deal with your needs
for security versus growth? As you know, these are two overall categories of needs that are at odds with one another. The interrelationship between growth and security
is played out in five areas. These five areas are: emotional, physical, intellectual,
social, and spiritual.
Security vs. Growth
purpose in considering your need for security versus growth is to examine ways
in which you may be utilizing your working relationships with clients to meet
your needs rather than meeting the needs of the clients. The result may be, perhaps,
not setting an ethical boundary with your client. Therapeutic relationships can
be a source of personal satisfaction for you; that is normal.
However, as you
know, mental health professionals whose personal lives do not fulfill their own
needs may find themselves manipulating clients, making them overly dependent,
using them to satisfy needs for power, prestige, or self-fulfillment. This, of
course, does not mean that the therapist gets no satisfaction from his or her
successes. Rather it means that your satisfaction is derived from the client's
freedom to develop and to be successful as a person apart from the therapist.
5 Areas of Conflict in Security vs. Growth
does this mean to you personally? Let's look at the five areas in which the conflict
between security and growth arises. These five areas are, as mentioned earlier:
-- 1. emotional,
-- 2. physical,
-- 3. intellectual,
-- 4. social, and
-- 5. spiritual.
Exercise: 5 Ways to Raise Your Awareness Level
an exercise for you to raise your awareness level.
Recall a client who may be
more dependent upon you than you would like.
Regarding emotional conflicts, say
the first word that comes to mind to describe your emotional reaction to this
Now regarding the physical area, do a scan of your body. What is the first
word that describes any physical reaction or non-verbal reaction to this person?
Intellectually, state the first phrase that comes to mind regarding your thoughts
about him or her.
Socially, answer yes or no, does this client meet any social
needs of yours?
And finally spiritually, does this person some how add meaning
to your life? If so, describe how in one sentence.
you feel uncomfortable with any of your answers to the preceding five questions,
apply Robinson's three point ethics check: What is the context of the situation
with this client who may be more dependent upon you than you would like? What
are the client's goals? Is there a potential harm?
The conflict between growth and security is reflected in what five areas?
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