let's look at increasing your self awareness concerning the impact of your gender culture. As you know, culture dictates patterns or ways of behaving in response
to a specific situation, and these patterns are given to you as a child through
your family, school, church, other social institutions, and your peer group.
this process, the reasons for selecting a particular way of behaving may be lost.
Your behavior becomes invested with an emotional significance, which is the accepted
way for your particular culture. Culture also defines significant roles and sets
up expectations of the behaviors that accompany them. When these role definitions
become rigid, they tend to be counterproductive.
can see much rigidity operating in the gender-role definitions that have been
so inhibiting to women's use of their potential for achievement. We see these
gender-roles operating in families where the accepted expectations for wife and
parent roles may be so engrained that individuals cannot adapt to people whose
expectations differ from their own.
with this in mind, let's look at increasing self-awareness of your culture as
it dictates ways of behaving regarding gender-role expectations. In general, women
are raised to be submissive to men. Men are raised with a culture of entitlement.
A Client of the Opposite Gender
Ask yourself, when you have a client of the opposite gender, do you sometimes
have a hard time setting boundaries because of these inferior versus superior
roles? As a male, do you feel at a certain level that you should have all the
answers for your client, especially your female clients?
Think a minute, as a
male do you have more of a tendency to feel you should be able to "fix"
your female clients? Or, as a female, do you feel intimidated by some of your
more domineering, assertive male clients? In setting a boundary with a client,
in order to stay focused on the issues that they present in the session, a brief
recall of the gender-role expectation in the culture in which you were raised
may be of assistance. In light of the preceding examples, turn the CD off and
recall a client of the opposite gender for which you may feel you have a gender-biased
"White Knight" Complex - 5 Questions
impact of your gender culture may come into play regarding crossing the boundary
of providing favors for clients. I have found this creates more of a problem for
my male colleagues than their female counterparts. Many males laughingly refer
to this as their "white knight" complex. Here's a question for you...
you see a client stranded on the roadside do you give him or her a ride?
-- Do you
have clients for which you feel this would be appropriate?
-- Or do you feel there
are no clients you are currently treating for which you would violate this boundary,
by giving a ride?
-- If you work with children, how about giving a ride to their
stranded parent...in the pouring rain?
-- How about this for complications of boundaries?
They are also your neighbors...and you live in a very small town. The situation
creates more of a gray area in this case, than for the therapist that works in
a big city probation department and the client stated in her last session she
was starting to use drugs again.
3 Step Method for Deciding What is an Ethical Boundary
how do you decide what is ethical boundary setting and what isn't? A three step
method to help you decide, proposed by Robinson in his Ethical Decision Making book, is as follows:
#1. What is the context of the situation? i.e. big town versus small town or substance abuse history versus none.
#2. What are the client's goals? Is this a ploy or manipulation for attention to reinforce
dependence or perhaps a sexual fantasy? And finally,
#3. What is the
potential harm resulting from a various course of action that may damage your
future therapy relationship? I will be referring to Robinson's three step ethics
assessment techniques several times throughout this CD to give you practice in
applying it. Hopefully by the end of the CD you will have a working knowledge
of his three step assessment method.
- Gartrell, N. (2002). Boundaries in Lesbian Therapy Relationships. Women and Therapy, 29-50.
- Robison, W. (2000). Ethical Decision Making. Boston: Allyn & Bacon.
What are the three steps in the assessment technique?
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