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In the last track we discussed power imbalances in relationships as a result of Lifetraps.
In this track we'll explore the use of metaphors to help clients find closure.
Have you found that clients suffering from Lifetraps often become depressed due to self-comparisons? Christy, a 19 year old student who we discussed in the last track, stated she often felt depressed. Christy's depression seemed to stem from her feeling of being "Unlovable". As you recall, Christy was dealing with a power imbalance in her relationship with her now ex-boyfriend Jason.
Christy stated, "I start thinking about what is "lovable" about me, but the problem is that I also start thinking about how fat I am compared to Jason's new girlfriend, Jen." Christy went on to say "I think to myself, 'If I were more like Jen, Jason would be with me now.' Then I get caught up in thinking about how much I want my parents to apologize to me for the things they did when I was young that led me to feel that I wasn't good enough for Jason."
Principle - 3 Steps
-- Step # 1 - The Cake: Clearly State How You Were Hurt & What You Want
-- Step # 2 - The Icing: Eliciting an Apology
I asked Christy if she could apply the Cake-and-Icing or the Cherry-on-top metaphor attitude towards not receiving an apology from her parents. Christy stated how she felt, "My parents feel so strongly about being right; they can't bring themselves to apologize for their actions to me." Christy stated, "Last week I was talking with my dad about how he called me a stupid kid as a child and how much that hurt me. I was hoping he'd apologize, but instead he just said, 'Well, you were stupid. I was just saying the truth. You know you never did well in school.'"
-- Step # 3 - Accept that There May Never be an Apology
Think of a client you're currently treating. Would it be helpful to use the metaphors of Cake-and-Icing or Cherry-on-top-of-the-Sundae to help your client identify and set realistic relationship goals?
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