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In the last track we discussed the power imbalance questions of meta-messages and cause and effect logic.
In this track we'll talk about power imbalance questions
of Responsibility and Symbiosis vs. Independence in Relationships.
Question #3 - Responsibility
I found it helpful with Christy to introduce what I call, "Responsible-For-Your-Own-Feelings-Basics." Here's how this intervention works. The fact is, one person can't transplant feelings into another person. So, Power-Imbalance question #3 for your client who feels he or she is unlovable is, "Do you make your significant other responsible for your feelings?"
Question #4 - Symbiosis vs. Independence in Relationships
Have you found that clients tend to gravitate toward situations that mirror childhood experiences? For example, Christy tends to get into relationships with men who take over and control situations so she can depend on them to make the decisions about daily life and direction.
Christy stated,"I keep thinking the next relationship will be different. But it never is. It's like I'm doomed to have the same relationship over and over again, just with different players." Someone who has learned to think of himself or herself as a victim might become involved with a victimizer. Exploring this pattern helped Christy to realize that she has choices in the types of relationships and structure of relationships that she's involved in. Power-imbalance question #4 helped Christy to understand a common relationship pitfall: lack of separateness and the creation of a symbiotic or co-dependent relationship.
Ask yourself in the next session you have with your client who feels he or she is unlovable, "Would it be beneficial to review any of these four power-imbalance questions of: meta-messages, cause and effect logic, responsibility for your own feelings, and symbiosis vs. independence in relationships?"
In the next track we'll discuss methods of coping with the Lifetrap of depression, and using the Cake and Icing Principle as a way of addressing client's needs vs. wants for finding closure.
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